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“๋‹ต์ •๋„ˆ”๋ฅผ ์˜์–ด๋กœ?

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“๋‹ต์ •๋„ˆ”๋ฅผ ์˜์–ด๋กœ?

 

“๋‹ต์ •๋„ˆ”๋Š” ‘๋‹ต์€ ์ •ํ•ด์ ธ ์žˆ์œผ๋‹ˆ ๋„ˆ๋Š” ๋Œ€๋‹ต๋งŒ ํ•ด’์˜ ์ค„์ž„๋ง๋กœ, ์งˆ๋ฌธ์„ ํ•˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด ์ด๋ฏธ ๋‹ต์„ ์ •ํ•ด๋†“๊ณ  ์ƒ๋Œ€์—๊ฒŒ ๋‹ต์„ ์š”๊ตฌํ•˜๋Š” ์ƒํ™ฉ์„ ๊ฐ€๋ฆฌํ‚ค๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„์ด๋‹ค. ๋‹ต์ •๋„ˆ๋Š” ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์ด ์ง„์ •์œผ๋กœ ์ž์‹ ์˜ ์˜๊ฒฌ์„ ๋ฌป๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ, ์ž์‹ ์ด ์›ํ•˜๋Š” ๋Œ€๋‹ต์„ ๊ฐ•์š”ํ•˜๋Š” ํƒœ๋„๋ฅผ ๋น„ํŒํ•  ๋•Œ ์ž์ฃผ ์“ฐ์ธ๋‹ค.

 

์˜์–ด๋กœ๋Š” ์ด์™€ ๋น„์Šทํ•œ ๊ฐœ๋…์„ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์ด ๋ช‡ ๊ฐ€์ง€ ์žˆ๋‹ค.

 

๊ทธ์ค‘ ํ•˜๋‚˜๋Š” “fishing for compliments”์ธ๋ฐ, ์นญ์ฐฌ์„ ๋“ฃ๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ์งˆ๋ฌธ์„ ๋˜์ง€๋Š” ๊ฒฝ์šฐ์— ์ฃผ๋กœ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•œ๋‹ค.

 

์ด์™ธ์—๋„ “looking for validation”์ด๋ผ๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„๋„ ์žˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋Š” ์ด๋ฏธ ์ž์‹ ์ด ์›ํ•˜๋Š” ๋‹ต์„ ์ •ํ•ด๋†“๊ณ , ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์—๊ฒŒ ํ™•์ธ๋ฐ›๊ณ ์ž ํ•  ๋•Œ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„์ด๋‹ค.

 

๋งŒ์•ฝ ๋” ๋ถ€์ •์ ์ธ ๋‰˜์•™์Šค๋ฅผ ์ถ”๊ฐ€ํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค๋ฉด, “insecure and manipulative”๋ผ๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„๋„ ์žˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋Š” ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์ด ์ž์‹ ์˜ ๋ถˆ์•ˆ์„ ๋ฎ๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ์กฐ์ข…์ ์ธ ๋ฐฉ์‹์œผ๋กœ ๋Œ€๋‹ต์„ ์œ ๋„ํ•œ๋‹ค๋Š” ์˜๋ฏธ์ด๋‹ค.

 

  • “She’s just fishing for compliments, don’t take her seriously.” (๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ๊ทธ๋ƒฅ ์นญ์ฐฌ์„ ์œ ๋„ํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฑฐ์•ผ, ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ์ง„์ง€ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋ฐ›์•„๋“ค์ด์ง€ ๋งˆ.)
  • “You’re not really asking for my opinion, are you? You’re just looking for validation.” (๋„ค๊ฐ€ ์ •๋ง ๋‚ด ์˜๊ฒฌ์„ ๋ฌป๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฑด ์•„๋‹ˆ์ง€? ๊ทธ๋ƒฅ ํ™•์ธ๋ฐ›๊ณ  ์‹ถ์€ ๊ฑฐ์ž–์•„.)
  • “Stop being so manipulative. It’s obvious you’ve already made up your mind.” (๊ทธ๋งŒ ์ข€ ์กฐ์ข…ํ•˜๋ ค๊ณ  ํ•ด. ๋„ค๊ฐ€ ์ด๋ฏธ ๊ฒฐ์ •์„ ๋‚ด๋ฆฐ ๊ฒŒ ๋ป”ํžˆ ๋ณด์ด์ž–์•„.)

 

 

 

#๋‹ต์ •๋„ˆ๋œป

#๋‹ต์ •๋„ˆ์˜์–ด๋กœ

#fishingforcompliments

#lookingforvalidation

#insecureandmanipulative

#๋ฏธ๊ตญ์‹ํ‘œํ˜„
#ํ•œ์˜๋ฒˆ์—ญ
#์˜ํ•œ๋ฒˆ์—ญ
#๋ฒˆ์—ญ์˜์žฅ์ธ
#๊ณ ๊ธ‰๋ฒˆ์—ญ
#์ „๋ฌธ๋ฒˆ์—ญ
#์˜๋ถˆ๋ฒˆ์—ญ์‚ฌ
#์ญ๊ธ€๋ฆฌ์‹œ





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